Living Single...

No...this blog is not about Queen Latifah's short-lived sitcom on the Fox network...this particular blog deals with the good, the bad, and the ugly of living single in this day and age...If you have not read my previous blog entitled...Christian seeking...I advise you to do so now...as this is a continuation of some previous ideas expressed in that blog...

In my last blog...I looked at being single...getting married...finding 'The One'...all as God intended things to be...I want to deal with the other side of being single...the day to day life of Christian singles...so what happened between...Genesis chapter two...and 2008...(a lot...duh...lol...) No, seriously...the major thing was the fall of man...the original sin...After sin is introduced to the world...mankind is removed from God's peaceful paradise...and cast into the world we know today...A world full of sickness, disease, war, hate, adultery, fornication, homosexuality...things God never intended for us to know....

The divorce rates among Christian households and non-Christian households are pretty much the same...Christians struggle with sexual immorality...fornication...adultery...homosexuality...all because we are confused as to what it is...we SHOULD be doing...we date...club...mingle at Happy Hour...just like everyone else...finding ourselves in situations God never intended for us to experience...I know what you are thinking...as a single person...I shouldn't date??? How will I ever get to know if we have anything in common? My only answer for you is...only God knows...sounds hard to swallow...but is it really...Is it really hard to trust God to make the right decisions for you??? I know that being single...means being alone...and for some of us that is really hard to do...Being in tune with God's will for your life is the best thing we can do right now...Dating only pulls your attention away from pleasing God...and works at pleasing your flesh...I am not a Bible scholar...yet...lol...with that being said...I don't know of any scriptures that deal directly with dating...but I will share with you Paul's opinion on being single...check it out...First Corinthians 7:32-35...

32I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

Early in this chapter, as well as chapter 6, Paul speaks against against sexual immorality...in verse nine...He says that he would rather a person be married than to burn with passion...Marriage went from being God's holy union of a man and a woman...in chapter two of Genesis...to becoming a bail-out for those with no self-control...sin tainted God's plan...and now women seek women...and men seek men...in marriage...people get married at a drop of a hat...as soon as we find someone slightly decent...the interrogation begins...Where do you work? What's your credit score? Are you saved? In verse 32 and 33, Paul is saying as singles we ought to be more concerned with what the Lord would have us do...because the husband/wife (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship distracts you from the things of the Lord...and places your attention on the affairs of this world...Paul goes on to say in verse 35...I say this not to restrict you...but that you may live in undivided devotion to the Lord...

What are you searching for? Are you lonely? Do you want what you see on tv...the fairy-tale...prince charming...happily ever after...storybook ending? Better yet...do you intend to carry all of your emotional baggage into every relationship from here on out? I find myself comparing one woman to the next...searching for my bride...and God is simply saying...when you are done...I'll start...When we get done with our laundry list of things we need and want in our mate...God will step in and give us His version...He will give us exactly what we need...the question is...Do you trust Him??? Allow God to step in and mend your brokenheart...to help you with self-control...so that He can plan your wedding...Let's pray...

We never stop to say thank you for the little things in our life...so Lord we just want to say thank you...thank you that when I woke up this morning I was in my right mind...that as we rushed about our day...you kept us from all hurt, harm, and danger...thank you for being our keeper Lord...for being our provider...for standing in the gap for us...Thank you most of all...for sending your Son...Jesus Christ...to die for our sins...Lord we want to be holy...remove everything out of our life that keeps us from serving you...Lord help us to control ourselves in every relationship...Lord we want everything you have for us...we don't want to miss one blessing...so help us to understand our purpose in your kingdom...Lord you know what we stand in need of...so bless us according to your will...we need you Lord...and we Love you...it is in Jesus' name we pray this prayer...Amen...

Ephesians 3:20 says...

20Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,

Trust me...what God has for you...is better than anything you ever dreamed of...